Self Care for Moms
When I became a mom, I thought self care would just come naturally to me. I thought practicing self care was going to be easy, and when it wasn't I assumed I was doing it wrong. I thought surely, there was something wrong with me because I was struggling to practice self care everyday. Here's the thing I've found out: self care does not come naturally as a mom. We are needed, constantly. Someone needs a snack, their favorite toy, or just threw something down the toilet. We are giving our time, and energy to other people for the majority of our day. Self care is tough to practice, but it's vital. After giving yourself to other people all day, you need to pour back into yourself. Here are two things I found out: self care may look different everyday, and self care doesn't look the same for everyone. Don't get me wrong, I would love to go to a spa every day, but that's just not my reality right now. Some people find going for a run very therapeutic; however, I am not one of those people. So, I'll share a few self care ideas that have worked for me as a mom.
1.Spending Time with God
Spending time with God is essential for me. Whether I'm reading scripture, listening to praise and worship music or listening to a sermon, or praying I have to spend time with God. I don't have consecutive hours to spend with Him, so I look for pockets in my day. Five minutes here, five minutes there. Talking to God just refreshes me, and reminds me that even during those confusing, exhausting, and overwhelming moments of motherhood, He is here with me.
2. Asking Myself What I Need Most Today, When I Wake Up
Mama, your needs may change day to day, so don't try to practice the same self care everyday. Give yourself permission to pivot, change, and reset your self care as often as you need to. That's why I try to ask myself this question each morning: "What do I need today?" Some mornings the answer to this question is: drink more water. Some mornings the answer is: think kinder thoughts about myself. This question helps me be intentional with practicing self care.
3. Unfollow People On Social Media Who Make Me Feel Bad About My Journey
I'll just get right to it, motherhood is tough. The last thing you need is to follow someone of social media who makes you think negatively about your motherhood journey. The last thing you need mama, is to follow someone who makes you feel bad as a person. This person probably means well. But maybe it's just not your time to consume the content they post. It's okay to unfollow or mute anyone who makes you feel bad about who you are right now.
These are a few self care tips that have helped me be intentional about how I practice self care. Know that you don't have to practice the same self care tips everyday. Self care can change depending on the season of life you're in. But it is important that you practice self care everyday. It's important that you check in with yourself and see what you need. I'm sure you've heard it before, but I'll say it again: you can't pour from an empty cup.